What I Remember Most

                                                           

                        The thing I remember most about Memére

                is not her cooking.

                She was a great cook, putting together feasts

                with an ease that dumbfounded me

                when I was young and cooking was still magic.

                She understood one fundamental truth about food-

                There is no such thing as too much salt.

                Her meals were memorable, but not just for the food.

 

                The thing I remember most about Memére

                is not her driving.

                Anyone who drove with Memére

                (especially on those long drives to Maine)

                was treated to long discussions on nothing in particular,

                sing-a-long songs, missed highway exits,

                and mild cases of whiplash.

                Her driving was memorable,

                but it's not what stands out strongest in my memory.

 

                The thing I remember most about Memére

                is not her music.

                Her family (and her fellow Bel-Aires)

                know how much she enjoyed her singing,

                we did too.

                Her prowess with the spoons and kazoo was legendary,

                but it is not what I remember most.

 

                The thing I remember most about Memére

                is not her consistent and utter refusal

                to accept the reply "No thanks, I've just eaten",

                or her devastating Scrabble vocabulary,

                or her molten coffee.

 

                The thing I remember most about my Memére

                is laughter.

                It was the secret ingredient in the family feasts

                and the reason for the missed exits.

                It was the reason that no matter how much she aged,

                to me, she was never old.

 

                The thing I will miss the most about my Memére

                is her laughter.

 

                                                            Kevin W. Fitzpatrick

                                                May 8, 1998